What people do to avoid having to decide

One more training course. Only once the project is finished. Only once the children are older. Only once the right moment has come.

The basic problem

These are avoidance strategies, and they are rarely chosen consciously.

They feel sensible, they look like diligence, sometimes even like hard work. What they have in common is that they ensure a decision does not have to be made.

How avoidance can be recognised

The waiting always has a good reason. The reason changes, the decision stays open. After the training course comes the next condition, and after that another.

My stance on avoidance

The key statement

Avoidance is human, and a decision stays open as long as no one questions the waiting.

Avoidance almost always has an understandable reason, and I do not judge it.

Many people experience it as a relief when they recognise what hides behind the next good reason to wait.